yuna0z
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Sept 15, 2005 18:03:07 GMT -5
Post by yuna0z on Sept 15, 2005 18:03:07 GMT -5
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Sept 15, 2005 18:51:16 GMT -5
Post by Peachy on Sept 15, 2005 18:51:16 GMT -5
ugh. . . men can be such idiots. . .
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Sept 15, 2005 21:17:50 GMT -5
Post by joyce on Sept 15, 2005 21:17:50 GMT -5
Tell him unless he wants that porn to be the only sex he'll be seeing in a long time, he better shut the f**k up.
Or you can nicely tell him that he's an idiot and he's bothering you but in a nice way, and try to make him feel bad. Cry, that always works.
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atag
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Sept 16, 2005 2:02:00 GMT -5
Post by atag on Sept 16, 2005 2:02:00 GMT -5
Hehe...i like ur first suggestion joyce. That is definitely what i wud like to say! N my crying has stopped working on my boyfriend. I think i've over used it!  N i completely agree with u satu, i jus don't get why men need to look at other women or watch porn when they are with the woman they love. They're bloody greedy b*****ds! I hate it when my boyfriend claims its anything but normal for a guy to watch porn. Whats worse even his sis who is a good friend of mine agrees with him!  I don't know how some women can be so relaxed about their man gettin turned on by another woman & watching her naked & doing stuff. Sometimes i wonder is it becoz they're secure n have nothing to worry about & i hate it only becoz i'm insecure of myself. Coz the women there look a lil too perfect, although artificial.I dunno.. |
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yuna0z
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Sept 16, 2005 2:33:08 GMT -5
Post by yuna0z on Sept 16, 2005 2:33:08 GMT -5
Thanks for the replys. Made me think a lot.
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akira
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Sept 16, 2005 5:21:38 GMT -5
Post by akira on Sept 16, 2005 5:21:38 GMT -5
I hate to look at this situation differently, but how exactly did he bring this up to you Yuna0z? Was he more into describing the girls physical features or their attitudes? If it's the latter maybe he's trying to hint to you that maybe he'd like to try something new in bed? He might be thinking "hey that's be sooooo much hotter if my girlfriend did that for me or acted like that" but may not be able to figure out a way to tell you because he might be too embarrassed if you though it was stupid or didn't want to do it.
If its the former, its best to explain your feelings about it and how it upsets you. I mean its one thing to watch porn, its another to use it to hurt someone's feelings especially when they don't feel up to par. Ask him why he feels the need to tell you about the girls in porn.
I'm really hoping its the latter though since it means that he's trying to use porn in a more effective and productive way for the both of you.
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Sept 16, 2005 9:05:52 GMT -5
Post by shakira8 on Sept 16, 2005 9:05:52 GMT -5
I'm not jealous of porn stars coz we watch porn ONLY together and if he likes smth he sees then we might as well do it.I don't think your guy likes the girls on the porn films,he just likes the things they do and maybe he wants you to be like her at bed!Just try being a bit naughtier,he'll forget,not only her,but his name too!!
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Sept 16, 2005 10:26:41 GMT -5
Post by gigi on Sept 16, 2005 10:26:41 GMT -5
Men respond to porn as do some women. atag, I think you nailed it when you thought confidence played a role in how a woman responds. Akira makes an excellent point in using porn to one's advantage rather than being threatened by it. The only thing that I would object to his is being tactless about it. That he felt comfortable enough to talk to you about it is a plus.
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yuna0z
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Sept 16, 2005 16:43:58 GMT -5
Post by yuna0z on Sept 16, 2005 16:43:58 GMT -5
I hate to look at this situation differently, but how exactly did he bring this up to you Yuna0z? Was he more into describing the girls physical features or their attitudes? If it's the latter maybe he's trying to hint to you that maybe he'd like to try something new in bed? He might be thinking "hey that's be sooooo much hotter if my girlfriend did that for me or acted like that" but may not be able to figure out a way to tell you because he might be too embarrassed if you though it was stupid or didn't want to do it. If its the former, its best to explain your feelings about it and how it upsets you. I mean its one thing to watch porn, its another to use it to hurt someone's feelings especially when they don't feel up to par. Ask him why he feels the need to tell you about the girls in porn. I'm really hoping its the latter though since it means that he's trying to use porn in a more effective and productive way for the both of you. Me and my boyfrend have a strong relationship and we talk about everything. On that note he probably thought I wouldn't think anything of it. I talked to him today about it though. He was sorry about it and he said he won't talk about it in front of me. I believe he didn't mean to hurt me by saying that becuase when he was talking to me about it he knew I was hurt because my expression changed. I love him very much but sometimes I think he can be stupid.   (In a silly way of course.) |
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akira
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Sept 17, 2005 6:22:06 GMT -5
Post by akira on Sept 17, 2005 6:22:06 GMT -5
Yeah I didn't think he was telling you about it just to be mean to you. I really do think though that he probably mentions it because its part of his life and so are you and considering you both have a good relationship and talk about everything together it was just like him telling you about part of his day is all. Just be glad he even wanted to talk to you about it. I do think he is trying to hint to you that he'd like you to try something with him though. Glad things did work out nicely for you though.
As for people being threatened by porn star girls and whatnot, you really shouldn't. I got to meet some girls who did penthouse photoshoots as well as some woman who runs her own porn site with nude photos of herself and they were really nice, just not all that nice looking like they are in their photos. I mean they look a lot more down to earth and human when you take off their airbrushed makeup and special lighting effects. Not to mention a lot of the women in the porn industry have implants a lot of the time. Rarely do you get a lot of porn stars now who keep their natural size even if they are large breasted. In a way its kinda sad but that's just how things go.
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Sept 21, 2005 12:31:38 GMT -5
Post by fawnmarie on Sept 21, 2005 12:31:38 GMT -5
Why don't you tell HIM about the great guy you met/saw - with a great job, great personality, manners, education and sense of humor - oh and a great ass too.
It's one thing to look, it's another to talk about it.
Sheesh - what a goober!
You shouldn't be so threatened, but he shouldn't be such a putz, either.
Fawn
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Sept 21, 2005 12:51:12 GMT -5
Post by gigi on Sept 21, 2005 12:51:12 GMT -5
You know what's sad? You have to constantly remind them that they're putzes! Age doesn't improve the behavior either. A shot to the head might |
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Sept 21, 2005 13:00:43 GMT -5
Post by fawnmarie on Sept 21, 2005 13:00:43 GMT -5
The good thing about boyfriends is that they can be replaced without the assistance of a lawyer.  Fawn |
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Sept 22, 2005 3:27:31 GMT -5
Post by shakira8 on Sept 22, 2005 3:27:31 GMT -5
Hehe,good one Fawn!
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Sept 22, 2005 22:48:18 GMT -5
Post by confused on Sept 22, 2005 22:48:18 GMT -5
I am going to have to agree with Fawn, that if they are insensitive to your feelings , then maybe he isn't meant for you and I am a guy, but I don't watch porn nor would I. I appreciate a person more than that. FOLLOW YOUR HEART! Everyone disserves to be happy.
Just my feelings on the matter,
jre
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