Men

[thames]

As a man I agree with you on many points, but not all guy are like you describe. And just anothor point not all Guys are like the ones describe. I could also tell you more then few things about some ladies people I dated in the past, that just bad as some of stories you tell about guys. Thank you about it !

[fawnmarie]

Yep - BD is right - some women are AWFUL.

Number 2 reason I remain heterosexual.



Fawn

[Peachy]

fawnmarie said:

Yep - BD is right - some women are AWFUL.

Number 2 reason I remain heterosexual.



Fawn

LOL ;D

[Tweety]

Most men don't like to be generalized as drooling sex-crazed one track mind maniacs as much as most women don't like to be labeled as jealous, catty, mind game playing shopping fanatics. Cause we're not ALL like that.

It seems like 10% of straight men are complete pigs, walking hard-ons looking for a hole, 10% are decent, respectful men that have no temptation to look at another girl other than their own, and the other 80% are just guys struggling with a very real struggle of looking at attractive women and fantisizing about them.

I dated a pig once. He was so obsessed with sex that the comments about other women kept slipping out. Most of the time he didn't even try to hold back I don't think. He knew it was tactless and that it bothered me. He could sexualize anything--I told him a funny story about my best friend (who he had never even met or seen) and how she had to hide jars of her stepmoms dreaded beat relish, and all he could do was drool over a visualization of my friend and a jar of relish--what he was visualizing, you can probably guess.

It is best to talk it out, find out what his intentions are by making these comments. If he's just a stupid idiot, (like the one I dated) and he can't restrain himself for you, show him the door.

I've dated more guys who aren't obsessed with or make comments about big breasts, porn, and talk about other girls than I've dated pigs. So that is good news!

My highschool sweetheart got MAD at me when I didn't believe he liked my tiny breasts! He was very hurt!

They do exist, ladies

[thames]

Ladies i agree with you on what you saying, their alot of men out their that are like that, but not all of us are. If a men treats you poorly and can not accept you for who are , tell him to hit the road, jack and do not come back. Men that act like that are not real men at all, as my sister would they are nothing but jerks.


Blue Dolphin

[Tweety]

Women can be pigs too, I think because when they do it, it's perceived to be not creepy, it's funny or liberating because they aren't known for being oglers. I worked with a guy who used to be a stripper and said the women were the worst, would reach out and grab the strippers

The firefighters put out a calendar every year with the most attractive firefighters (not sure if it's just Canada, or the US too) posing. They sell the things at Wal-Mart for pete's sake. How sexist. It must be for a good cause but I grew out of stuff like that in 8th grade!

[Tweety]

The other thing about women is while we don't look at a lot of porn, we have romance novels and chick flicks. They give us a distorted view of how a man is supposed to be, much like porn gives men a distorted look of how a woman is supposed to look.

How can any guy measure up to the shirtless hunk on the cover, who knows just the right things to say and do in pursuit of the leading lady?

[Peachy]

you're right about this, of course. . . it's difficult to keep an eye on healthy reality when we're blitzed by all these images and fairytale-like stories. . .

and on the note of "bad experiences," I was on the receiving end of someone who had those expectations of me. . . NOT fun . . . and made me seriously doubt myself in SO many ways. (I'm done with him now, thank goodness!)

Peachy

[jennidee]

HAH! I have one---I was dating a man for a few months who had just been divorced from a hot young blonde bimbette who cheated on him repeatedly. She had huge implants. The first time we got intimate, we laid their after and he began talking to me like I was a GUY! He talked about how incredible she looked in her bikini and at the nude beaches they went to. He talked about how great her implants were and how she turned him in to "a big boob guy." HELLOOOOOO? You have an A-cup chick laying here next to you, MORON!!! And I may not have giant bags of salt water in my chest, but I'll never cheat on anyone!

Turns out, he has not had any successful relationships since then. He keeps pictures of naked women on his computer desktop, his porn magazines laying around, and does not understand why women he dates object to him openly lusting for other women. While I know that men are more visually stimulated than women, we don't want to be stepping over your porn to get to your bed! And for pete's sake, don't send us pictures of naked women in EMAIL! If we want to look at those parts, we'll break out a mirror!

Whew! I feel better!

Jennifer

[Tweety]

Jennifer

>:(THAT GUY IS AN IDIOT

I'm sitting here shaking my head with my mouth dropped open. I cannot find words to describe how stupid what he said was.

I thought my experience with a divorced guy with a wandering eye was bad, but yours took the cake! And I totally feel your frustration with the naked emails. My ex would send me pictures of fake looking chicks topless or in bikinis holding high powered guns. As if! Maybe it's a subliminal message that they want us to transform our image? Well the guys I've dated who have been like this have been NO prize, so I don't know where they get the grounds to expect the things they do!

[Tweety]

Still can't get over what an IDIOT that guy was!!!



Fuming,
Shannon

[jennidee]

Yes indeedy, he was an idiot. I made a tray of lasagna for him once--homemade sauce, and invited him over for it. He declined, asking me to his house for dinner because he had accidentally thawed out two steaks that were "stuck together" and were near their expriration date, so needed to be eaten immediately! I should have thrown the lasagna at him.
Even better, I saw him as friends a few months after we stopped dating ( I could not stand him for long.) I had been very stressed out and had dropped some weight--going from a size 6 to a 4--I'm pretty slim. I was having trouble eating and was actually getting a little unhealthy. I told him this and it reminded him of a "present" he'd gotten me in India--he's a pilot. He said that you can get any kind of prescription meds there just over the counter, so he got me something he thought I might like. Are you ready for this??? He got me PRESCRIPTION APPETITE SUPPRESSANTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And this man flies airplaines!!

By the way, if a man puts his ear up agains the chest of a woman with saline implants, can he hear the ocean???

Jennifer

[jennidee]

By the way Tweety....BEET RELISH? This guy was able to find something sexual about a jar of BEET RELISH? Wowwie. That one is for the record books......thanks for the giggle.

[jennidee]

Okay, I'm on a roll here....

I once had a blind date (internet date, same way I met dopey pilot boy) who bragged about having been a subscriber to Playboy for 15 years. He seemed to think that this made him a sophisticated person who knew all about women--how much airbrused T & A can a man look at for pete's sake?
Anyway, he seemed disappointed that I did not appear totally enthralled by his loyal readership and asked how I felt about it.
I replied that my feelings about someone who spends that kind of time and money looking at this stuff for years can be summed up by the fact that the magazine is called PlayBOY and not PlayMAN.

Oddly enough, I never heard from him again.....

[Tweety]

I'm chuckling out loud at that hear the ocean comment!

The frozen steak guy is not only shallow, but a complete idiot. His mind is so twisted that he seems to believe a Barbie doll will make him happier than a sweet, loyal lady. Even if Barbie cheats on him. No wonder none of his relationships work out for him.

And as for 15-year Playboy subscription guy expecting to impress you with his devotion to Hugh's bunnies... L-O-S-E-R! Fortunately he didn't call you back. You must have really bruised his ego.

I hope I've never done something so stupid that a bunch of guys are laughing about on a forum right now!!!

Appetite supressants for a poor gal that is dropping weight. How thoughtful.

WOW this is reminding me of a female Seinfeld. These men are unreal.

I haven't heard from beet relish boy in years. I guess the block I put on his incoming calls gave him a hint? To this day he probably has no clue why I want nothing to do with him.

Shaking head,
Shannon