SOOO sick of no tits

[jhoney]

i recently was told by someone( with boobs) that i was lucky to have such small breasts. She said that with out boobs she would look better in shirts and her life would be much easier such as her boobs not getting in the way and watnot. It is so aggrivating to hear this cause so many girls with a full chest take it for granted and think they have it hard.

i can not explain all of the moments i have been made fun of, commented on, and publicly singles out for having small boobs. shirts fits akwardly on me and makes me look like a have a 9 year old's body cause of my lack of tits. you makes dresses look SO much better with big boobs. and i couldn't make a bikini look sexy for the life of me.

my bf says he likes mine the way they are and they are the perfect size but when we walk down the street and see couples with girls wearing exposed shirts revealing their perfect boobs, i cant help but feel SO self conscious my heart sinks and i freeze up. i know deep down my bf would much rather prefer me to have bigger boobs. and at the same time i cant help but feel bad that i cant offer him that aspect.

its depressing and heart breaking every morning to wake up, look in the mirror, and be so unsatisfied and miserable with the appearance of your own body.

[flatmama]

JHoney-
I can understand why you were told it's was nice having smaller breasts. They can get in the way a bit. When I was pregnant with my last child I went up 2 cup sizes in just a few months and I was still running at that time and it was very uncomfortable. Also, shirts I used to regularly wear (that still fit because I didn't 'look' pregnant until I was 6 months along) showed alot more cleavage that made me very uncomfortalbe.
THAT BEING SAID-the bigger boob adventure was short lived and I miss it. I looked good in a bikini top! So most of my life I've had an A or smaller. It's not fun and you feel very akward. I was singled out and made fun of by my family of all people and have had a complex about my breasts for most of my life. (Seriously how many times do you have to hear how you are a carpenter's dream?) Heck the first time I put on some weight and had a roll over my jeans when I sat down that's all anyone could talk about and point out for my whole visit. (And they wonder why I was anorexic as a teenager...sheesh) I always wore the padded bras that made you look a cup size bigger so I actually had something. I was so scared on my wedding night (yes virgin when I got married) to show my husband what they really looked like. I haven't worn a swimsuit in public in years!

But here's some advice-which might not be so easy to follow but it helps.

Don't compare yourself to the other women you see with bigger boobs. You BF isn't, unless he's really not that great. I've had larger and smaller boobs and my husband has enjoyed both just as much as the other. The biggest difference was that I felt sexier and more womanly with bigger breasts. Your BF probably really does enjoy your smaller ones just as much as he would if you had larger breasts.
Another tip-don't look in the mirror so much, avoid it whenever you can. This can take some self control, I know. If I look in the mirror too much my body actually starts to change from 'I don't look so bad' to 'oh my gosh, I need to fix this and this and that....etc' You might not be seeing what you really look like. I know I don't.
Third-find something that helps you feel good about yourself. I exercise. It makes me feel better about myself and I can see more good things about my body then bad. When I don't exercise for awhile I start to feel and see myself as fatter and such even though measurements and weight haven't changed. Exercise also helps release the stress so you just feel better.
Try massage-this can help your breasts look and feel rounder.
When you turn 18, give BE a try. It's worth it.

I don't know how much help this is, but don't worry. You're not alone here.

[jhoney]

i got made fun of again in school today i hate having no boobs. it's so depressing, walking around knowing people are judging me. especially when people tell me not to worry about it cuz "no one's judging". in reality, i cant go a week without haveing some guy or chick commenting on my no boobs. and now im suspended cuz i poured my coffee on the kid and gave him 2nd degree burn maybe its time for the plastic surgeon to take over...

[serene]

jhoney

I am so sorry that happened and happens. So many of us on this board have been where you are. It hurts, they see it hurts and they do it some more. I would like to say they do it because they are jealous of you in some way, but a lot of times kids do it to tear other kids down. (although some do it because they are jealous and don't know how to deal with those feelings).

Like Flatmama I got it from friends and my family. The ones that hurt the most were from my family. When my friends said anything I would just make a joke about it, which sometimes helped at the time, but it still hurt.

It will take time. It's hard but be patient. I don't know how old you are, but if you are not yet 18 then take care of yourself now. So when you are older your body will be ready if you decide to use herbs. Eat right, avoid the bad foods. You will be a step ahead of many of us who started around the age of 30.

I wish you the best, and know you can vent here anytime. We've been there and can relate.

serene

[stellah]

I know how you feel,I'm 44 and only had boobs when having my 3 kids.
It does get me down,then you have people saying you should just except your small boobs which is difficult especially when my 3 older sisters are way bigger like gg cup,dd cup and large c cup sizes what happened? i'm only 34'A' cup some times I feel like I don't belong to the same gene pool.so I decided to do some thing about it,try herbs and massage nothing to lose,when your old enogh and if you still feel the same give it a try.

[jhoney]

but when is "old enough"?? im 18 and stopped growing basically when i started. people always said be patient your young you will grow and i waited and waited and never grew a single millimeter. i dont kno how much longer i should wait cause ive heared some people say they didn't develope till they were 23 but then i hear other people say that there breasts were sagging by the time thry were 23.

[illui]

I know EXACTLY how you feel.

I am an A on one side, probably a AA on the other, and my upper half looks practically anorexic and my lower half is nothing but ginormous gross thighs and this big fat bubble butt. When I turn sideways I look like a ketchup bottle, with the exception of my footballer's shoulders. I would give ANYTHING to look like EVERY OTHER WOMAN IN MY FAMILY, with D's or DD's so they at least look balanced (naturally I inherited every other trait). Why did I get nothing at all? Every time i feel a little better all i have to do is look in the mirror and I hate my body so much I wish I could just crawl out and leave it behind. I could live with no boobs if my thighs were skinny, I know I could. What the hell happened?

I am strongly considering giving up going to the college I chose for a smaller, less expensive one if it means I can afford implants. I hate the idea of having fake boobs, but I hate the way i look sooooo much I don't know what else to do. How can I go to college with all these pretty, busty girls knowing that hey, this is the best I'll ever look? I can't think, I can't concentrate on anything else, I'm driving my family crazy. I wish I knew if this really works or not because even though i gained about an inch I lost it all after my period, and my thighs just got bigger. I wish I had someone to bitch to so my family didn't have to hear about it 24/7...

FML.

[rei]

Hey illui,

I also know how you feel. ;-) I'm fighting with the same issue of my body image from time to time, and my family is being hurt by my negativity.

It's actually quite common to lose all of your growth with your period after just 1 month. If you continue longer, the growth may stay after the next cycle. In general for most people BE happens this way - you grow, then lose some part of it while some retain, next cycle you swell even more and again retain some gain, and so on. Some people are lucky not to lose anything at all.

When I was on herbs I got some acne, and even while I am off them right now, I still fight with occasional acne. For me it would be worth it if I retained some growth and tried not to stay too long on herbs.

I remember you said in the beginning that you love your figure which is athletic and nice. You also said that you have pretty green eyes, I remember that. So, what's wrong with your body image now? Did you manage to gain so much weight on your tights just in one month? Then may be the herbs you're taking is not the best combo for you.

[anastasia916]

Hmm, I have a bubble butt and my thighs touch but I love those curves about me lol, so does my hubby lmfao, trust me hun there are males that would love you the way you are, so be happy and stop being so negative, though I want bigger breasts, I'd be fine if it doesn't happen, I am still me, I just want the size I had while I was pregnant. So keep your chin up hun, I am sure you are beautiful.

[flatmama]

I'm guilty of all of this too, feeling like crap about myself...or at least used to.

Illui, you are young, only 19. You will learn over time to accept yourself as you are and even begin to 'love those curves' like anastasia said (Have you seen her pics? You know why she looks amazing and sexy....because she feels that way. A man will only see you that way if you feel that way...boobs or not). OR, you are going to beat yourself up constantly until you completely ruin any good thing you feel about your self-image. Here's something about the 'busty' college girls....half of them are probably padded bras. Really try to work on telling yourself the good things about your body, not the bad. If you don't and get implants, you'll probably just find something else that is wrong that needs to be fixed. Let the boobs be the icing on the cake, not the cake itself. Love yourself for who you are, not hate it because it's not everything you want.

Are you just getting depressed or moody? If it's that, try some progesterone cream. It is a really good thing to have during BE for those overly emotional times....don't use it every day though...just when things are really bad. It might be what you need.

[rei]

It's actually true for many people who are here doing BE that once they "fix" their breasts either naturally (although it's not that natural in my opinion) or with implants they switch to another thing to be obsessed with. At least I am made this way but for me this unhealthy obsession about my appearance started a few years ago before that I wasn't preoccupied with such thoughts, and now it really affects my life and well-being. There is a name to this obsession, if anybody is interested, here is the Wikipedia link - en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_dysmorphic_disorder
I've never been diagnosed but if I went to a specialized doctor, I'm absolutely positive they would give me this diagnosis. I think if anybody feels like this is what they have, it is important to try prevent it from the beginning.

For me affirmations seem to be helping, at least at this point. As I said earlier in my program page, it looks like I'm slowly growing while doing this EFT technique (where the most important part, as I understand, is the affirmation - for ex., even though I have small breasts, I completely and profoundly accept myself.) Too early to say for sure, I'm in the middle of my period, so I'll report later.

[flatmama]

I was told about BDD (body dysmorohic disorder) about a year and a half ago (by a psychologist). That was a wake up call to change what I thought about myself before I had to change everything about me to be happy. I don't want to pass that kind of self-hatred onto my daughter either.

I agree, a lot of people on here will just switch to another problem. Boob job or naturally growing, you still have to be accepting of your body before you do it, or else you'll just find another problem later.

[anastasia916]

Exactly FlatMama, I am pretty much happy with myself, I'd like to be a cup size bigger, but if not, I look good in a push up it drives my hubby nuts too haha, and I'm not super skinny, my thighs touch at the top when I walk and stand up, but so what? it's not like I'm obese, I'm just healthy, I work out, it makes me feel good, I do low impact stuff since starting BE and I run/jog. My tummy isn't completely flat, I have a lil pudge, but ya know most the time when people find out I have a kid they don't believe it, most assume I never had one, and that makes me feel good and fine with the way I am. I'm 5'1 and am about 118 sometimes up to 122. For my height to be super skinny you got to be about 95 pounds, I was 105 before I had my son. But you know I am happy with how I am. Only other thing I would change are the stretch marks on the sides of my butt/hips haha but I'm lucky I didn't get them on my tummy, so I'm happy.

This is what you need to do girls, for every negative about you find a positive. My thighs touch, but I have nice curves. My tummy isn't completely flat, but I'm still hot. My boobs aren't the ideal size I want, but they still look good to my man. I have stretch marks on the sides of my hips, but not on my tummy. I have acne, but it use to be alot worse, and I found some good make up that covers it without making it worse. My hair falls out more than it use to before my son, but it is now getting thicker than it was a few months ago. I'm not completely perfect, but who wants to be? Beauty is in the imperfections. Marilyn Monroe was sexy with a mole or "beauty mark". A beautiful old victorian style house would not be beautiful without the imperfections. Embrace them.

Stop dwelling on your imperfections and find what IS sexy and beautiful about you. Surgery really isn't worth it, many pay the price other than an empty wallet.

[gherb]

great advise Anastasia916.

[omgjanet]

i feel you!
i have small breast too & i would love to wear dresses
that show off my girls but sadly i too have little boobs and no cleaveage!