celebrities and our partners

[adryx]

this might have to do with my nbe too...but here i am at 1 am...crying my eyes out cause my bf likes jessica alba.... and he knows im doing be... and i mean duh! why would i want to grow my small one? b/c flippin jessica has perfectly equal ones...
and i said to him "im sick of this, sick of competing with airbrushed an retouched jessica alba...like she wasnt perfect enough w/o those"...and he says to make me feel better " ok im sick of this too...im sick of competing w brad pitt"

i dont even like any celebrities... that made me feel even worse... i mean seriously there's nothing brad pitt has that my bf doesnt + my bf's way cuter...and toned and all ...and i dont even go to the gym for fear id lose more weight mostly... and even if i did and i tanned...i got stretch marks since i hit puberty...lots of them on my derriere and boobies...and then i gt one boob one cup smaller than the other (hopefully its growing and this isnt just swelling)
and whats worse he got kind of upset b/c of it...call me dumb...but i dont get it... your girlfriend has no interes in anyone else and you get upset?
and why do we have to accept a bf's fantasies or god knows what with other celebrities when we give sooo much of us...and they dont have to deal with the same thing from us?

how is that fair?
(
90% of the time im ok with it
or mayb im fooling myself...but sometimes it honestly makes me pull my hair out

ohhh and hes so full of himself sometimes... which makes me feel like crap... "not matching" his "handsomeness"...maybe thats not his intention,,,
maybe i should just concentrate on male movie stars for a while... i dont know if it will make me feel better or even work though...

i appologize if i wasnt coherent or if i wrote h's instead of k's they all look alike when ur eyes are watery

i feel better...
hugs to everyone
adry

[adryx]

thank-you so much for your support *hugs*... you know you're right... i mean in his circle of friends , all the girls are gorgeous, but they are so spoiled and dress up in skirts that look more like belts to me... well i just turned 20 myself we're of the same age - the girls and i.... he whenever a new hot chick came to the US, in a week he stopped hanging out with his friends since , of course, his guyfriends who dont have girlfriends invite the lil entertainers ... but alex and i do share the same morals after all... and thats what our relationship is based on, mainly... i look ok...worse when i get a breakout ...but he does find me pretty...
i was never jealous because i saw the girls and how alex reacted to their gestures... as for celebrities, they probably look horrible wothout make up...but not jessica alba ...i was just feeling down las night... i dont feel quite lik that anymore...
maybe itwas a repressed feeling... in out 1st year of dating we had 2 misunderstandings...he got upset and changed his messenger display picture to jessica alba's picture from "sin city " both times... and he's mentioned smthg casually related to her since...not often...but it bugs me and he knows it....

anyway today i feel better because ...im the best person i can be ... i'm thankfull i'm not crippled or something.... and i'm 1/2 way to getting my bs in aerospace ...while trying to grow my boobs (these really make me feel good about myself...except when i get a lower grade than expected on an exam )...
we're so much more sophisticated than celebrities ...the fact that we're on this forum says it...
i wish you the most perfect boobs ever *giggles

adry

[adryx]

talked to boyfriend....he "didnt even have dreams about her"
chartuininga was right ... even he told me on the same topic... because im not very "liberal" ...there was something specific, but the idea is that "thats why" he loves me

ok so it was lotsa estrogen and all in my head ... kind of... bastard thought it funny that it bugged me ...thats why he'd mention alba once in a while

anyway, do feel free to post if you have a "gripe" ...you'll be understood

lots of wuv
adry

[dutchy]

Hi Adryx,

Felt the need to post a reply because I totally relate to your problem. I also have a boyfriend whom I love a lot, but who can give me the most crappy feeling about myself. (Actually I give it to myself, but anyway)
Not for literally talking about boobs or other women a lot, but for me more in between the lines. For instance we'd be looking at a program on tv (happened just the other day) and some girl with an amazing cleavage is on, I make a comment on it (because of my obsession with boobs:only exists because I lack them).
He then replies with that typicall male sensitivity: YEAH SHE'S GOT A NICE PAIR!!!!! Then giving me a grinn I could almost hit of his face.

I can get sooooooo sad for the fact I got an A cup. Sometimes it's even to much of an obsession when we go out and he'd be watching yet another perfectly shaped girl (thinking I don't see that) and me wanting to dissapear in the ground with every look.

He also likes to watch porn. Which I must admitt I sometimes like to watch with him . We had a major issue a couple of months ago when I confronted him with the fact, I new he secretly was watching that every second I was away. I wrote him a letter spilling everything I felt about it, even threatening I would leave him. I can't help it but I don't like sneaky behavior, especially concerning other women and him getting excited about them!
I let him read it because, when saying it to his face to begin with I tend to forget crucial parts which I then regret not telling him.
We talked about it and he said he didn't realize he was hurting me with it. So the porn issue is dealt with in a way I'm reletively happy with.

The girl watching (beïng it celebrities or the girl next door) is still a mayor issue for me. He has a thing for Salma Hayek, Angelina Jolie and Beth Hart (who the hell can compete with that ??!!!!!!) Wish to god I had at least a B cup, then it might still be an issue, but it wouldn't make me feel so enormously bad about my serious lack of cleavage.

As you can see from the long story it's a way too big of an issue for me. Overall I do have enough self-consious but this little area, or rather these two small areas!!!Haha (I can still see a bit of humor in it) give me the most problems.

Hope this can help you a bit. Helped me even only writing about it. We will never be able to change someone else, but we can try to change ourselves. Me beïng the first to admit this is
d**n hard and nearly impossible when it comes to boobs.

Anyway lot's of boobie growing to you. Also good luck with you man ;D
Lot's of greeting from Dutchy

[adryx]

you're all so nice ;D

mine doesnt have time to watch porn thank goodness... unless maybe watching it while talking to me online...but he's got his webcam on...so i think i'd notice if something was off...
he's busy with classes.....work... fixing carpc's and iphones and selling them lol...figuring out how to mount the supercharger to his engine...loosing crucial parts from teh supercharger....finding them...ordering them again *cracks up* ...but he told me he did have his share of porn "more than enough"... he put it... i admire you dutchy i would have been locked up in an asylum by now if i had to deal with that...but its nice that you can actually watch the movies together...i think that takes a great deal of trust... i'm not a porn fan...at least i dont think.... back in romania when i was a kid, after 11 pm they had what they classify as "hard core" stuff... so ive caught a few glimpses at that and developed an aversion ...i think they're "educational"...and im glad my bf watched them because at our 1st intimate moment...last year ...i didnt even know there was a spot outside also ...but then i informed myself too...by reading of course and by looking at diagrams (you know how in some movies they show segments from stripbars...usually action movies...which i watch with my boyfriend... :-\...yeah...i dont think i could handle watching a porn movie i'd go crying to the bathroom every 5 minutes... besides my chest..there would probably be my derriere... then i'll think im too hairy ....who knows what else...

yeah i dont like "sneakiness"...makes me think theres more to it than it actually is...

i get the "forgetting crucial parts"...i would get sad b/c of them then figure out a way to convey why i feel/ act/ cannot get over smthg in a way that wont just put the blame on him...and then when im caught up in defending myself and such i forget 1/2 of them and he kinda "wins" ... letters are good... sometimes i just wait untill he goes to sleep and list the other 1/2 ...so he can't interrupt me lol

thanks for the compliments chartuininga ...i think the camera has some distortion thing going on... good thing i didnt massage the left one which is ...hmmm i don't want to say "sagging", i can't think of a word right now ...but because the right one is swolen and so pointy they look pretty "even"...its realy not the case though...as for the "curves"... i'm a stick w/ a 32 B boob and a little swollen i beieve its now a 32-34 A boob....it looks worse without my shirt on... maybe i will post without it one day...so though...maybe it was he belt that did the tick

wish you all fast boobie results...from then on, its easy
adry

[syklewrench]

Mar 19, 2008 0:19:54 GMT -5 adryx said:

this might have to do with my nbe too...but here i am at 1 am...crying my eyes out cause my bf likes jessica alba.... and he knows im doing be... and i mean duh! why would i want to grow my small one? b/c flippin jessica has perfectly equal ones...
and i said to him "im sick of this, sick of competing with airbrushed an retouched jessica alba...like she wasnt perfect enough w/o those"...and he says to make me feel better " ok im sick of this too...im sick of competing w brad pitt"

I read your threads and it seems a bit unfair of the B/F and his take on things with boob's. I would stand on your feelings and use I feel statements. I have always been wholely supportive of my wifes choices to enhance her boobage. Never have I ever caused her to once to feel belittled, compared or asked imply-ed to be changed in any way. I found something as a start for research of un even breasts and Regina has a slightly smaller one also and this can be corrected over a short time so don't give up and be patient,K

If you do not wish to increase your general breast size but would like to increase the size of the smaller breast only the method would be to use the massage on the smaller breast:

The fennel or fenugreek powders (or both) can be added to lotion; about 1/4 teaspoon to 1 tablespoon of lotion. Exact mixing is not necessary- add a little more lotion if it dries too quickly. Massage a little of this in lightly (about 5 minutes) at night and leave it on overnight. (Hint; you can mix up larger amounts of this. The herbs will soften in the lotion and it will keep just fine.) Try to use a little for massage every night. This will stimulate circulation and allow the nutrients to be absorbed topically. Even a little will help. You don’t have to use so much that it makes a big mess.

Some women brew a strong tea with the bulk herbs and use a little of the liquid rather than the dry herbs so that the mixture is smoother.

You may want to use the extracts for this purpose. In this case mix 1 ml of fenugreek extract, (or a mixture of fenugreek, wild yam and saw palmetto equaling 1 ml) to a tablespoon of lotion and massage as indicated above.

The process of evening out breast size can take a little time. In some cases it may help to take some herbs internally, as tea, extracts or capsules, to introduce a few more of the nutrients into the body. Two to three capsules, 1 ml of extracts, or a cup of tea per day should not be enough to increase the breasts in general but may speed up the process of increasing the size of the smaller breast.

Take care

KEEP ON GROWING ! !!

JB


i dont even like any celebrities... that made me feel even worse... i mean seriously there's nothing brad pitt has that my bf doesnt + my bf's way cuter...and toned and all ...and i dont even go to the gym for fear id lose more weight mostly... and even if i did and i tanned...i got stretch marks since i hit puberty...lots of them on my derriere and boobies...and then i gt one boob one cup smaller than the other (hopefully its growing and this isnt just swelling)
and whats worse he got kind of upset b/c of it...call me dumb...but i dont get it... your girlfriend has no interes in anyone else and you get upset?
and why do we have to accept a bf's fantasies or god knows what with other celebrities when we give sooo much of us...and they dont have to deal with the same thing from us?

how is that fair?
(
90% of the time im ok with it
or mayb im fooling myself...but sometimes it honestly makes me pull my hair out

ohhh and hes so full of himself sometimes... which makes me feel like crap... "not matching" his "handsomeness"...maybe thats not his intention,,,
maybe i should just concentrate on male movie stars for a while... i dont know if it will make me feel better or even work though...

i appologize if i wasnt coherent or if i wrote h's instead of k's they all look alike when ur eyes are watery

i feel better...
hugs to everyone
adry

[syklewrench]

I read your threads and it seems a bit unfair of the B/F and his take on things with boob's. I would stand on your feelings and use I feel statements. I have always been wholely supportive of my wifes choices to enhance her boobage. Never have I ever caused her to once to feel belittled, compared or asked imply-ed to be changed in any way. I found something as a start for research of un even breasts and Regina has a slightly smaller one also and this can be corrected over a short time so don't give up and be patient,K

If you do not wish to increase your general breast size but would like to increase the size of the smaller breast only the method would be to use the massage on the smaller breast:

The fennel or fenugreek powders (or both) can be added to lotion; about 1/4 teaspoon to 1 tablespoon of lotion. Exact mixing is not necessary- add a little more lotion if it dries too quickly. Massage a little of this in lightly (about 5 minutes) at night and leave it on overnight. (Hint; you can mix up larger amounts of this. The herbs will soften in the lotion and it will keep just fine.) Try to use a little for massage every night. This will stimulate circulation and allow the nutrients to be absorbed topically. Even a little will help. You don’t have to use so much that it makes a big mess.

Some women brew a strong tea with the bulk herbs and use a little of the liquid rather than the dry herbs so that the mixture is smoother.

You may want to use the extracts for this purpose. In this case mix 1 ml of fenugreek extract, (or a mixture of fenugreek, wild yam and saw palmetto equaling 1 ml) to a tablespoon of lotion and massage as indicated above.

The process of evening out breast size can take a little time. In some cases it may help to take some herbs internally, as tea, extracts or capsules, to introduce a few more of the nutrients into the body. Two to three capsules, 1 ml of extracts, or a cup of tea per day should not be enough to increase the breasts in general but may speed up the process of increasing the size of the smaller breast.

Take care

KEEP ON GROWING ! !!

JB

[flatmama]

I might not make some people happy with this but in all honesty, men look at other women. That's really just it. It doesn't mean he thinks you are any less attractive or that the other woman is more attractive then you....they just look. And can you honestly say that when some hot guy walks by you don't sneak a peak?? My husband does the same thing when I mention something about a women's cleavage on TV too. He thinks it's funny cause I'm wanting that cleavage.
No, I don't agree with your bf finding what bugs you and keep bringing it up. It's good that you took the time to explain to him that it bothered you. They aren't always that great at telling when something is just bothering you a little or if it's causing you alot of emotional pain....no matter how long they've been with you!
Happy Growing!!

[adryx]

thanks so much for the input
syklewrench:
i'm using mirifem right now...it kind of seems to be working ...i have 5 more months left on it, so we'll see ...i still have fenugreek capsules and wy and epo and such since this winter... i decided not to use them for now... but i suppose that if mirifem doesn't do the trick ill try the tea and lotion.
flatmama :
my bf has a big ego - he is eastern european and the stereotype applies . The problem is that if someone points out that they're hurt or something, he will do the :"how dare you be upset with me, i never do anything wrong, i'm always right" so then, even though you're the one who's hurt, he will get very upset with you....and you might not even be mad at him for it, you might just wanna tell him that it bothers you and you'd really like him to stop rubbing it in... but in teh end he's teh one not talking to you and such...
of course sometimes he realizes his mistake and call after a week and treat you like a queen for the next 2-3 months...'till he messes up again
Since i posted that message (since i talked to him about it) he's been a sweetheart though...
no more hooters, disturbing comments etc.
Oh and, I have no problem with him looking if a very attractive girl passes him by ... he can look all he wants, it happens...there are a lot of attractive people out there... but things like : posters, going to hooters.... why do men have to "look for it" ... if they have a partner... you watch a movie, fine...you cant help but turn your head when a girl passes by, fine, no problem... but when the dude has a gf, and he decides to spend time in a place like hooters, it is really disrespectful... like wen said, i dont go to chippindales, so he could just go to a plain sportsbar with his friends or go play card or something that does not include going to stare at other women that are picked for the job based on standards I obviously dont meet.
If he likes those standards then thats fine...ill move on to the next guy...but then comes in the drama, and the " no i dont like them, i like you, i care about you more than anything else etc". OK if "you" dont like them then dont look for them, dont look for a place w/ exposed women to stare at. If you love me then look for me. You enjoy spending time with your friends, go ahead, i dont need to be included; but actually spend time w them, do stuff... watching girls with your friends drooling "arnd you" is not really spending time with them.

This might have sounded a little rough. Its just my oppinion on the matter. I really dont mean to lecture anyone, and i do not put all men in the same pot. For example some men wouldnt intend disrespect, but they go b/c they have friends that would say " oh yeah ur not comming cause your gf doesnt like it, and she made that clear that one day...look who's wearing the pants in the relationship" ...disgusting really, but what can you do? you can't just end your friendship with them b/c of that and "pick your gf over them"... hopefully they'll mature someday...its funny because his friends actually respect me a whole lot...but for some reason they dont expect him to respect me as much, seeing how im obv vurnerable when it comes to him and hes stronger...taller... more accomplished ... pays for me around them (and God forbid i offer to pay or us when his acquitences are around, what m i trying to do here, put him in a bad light? )
Anyway, thats just my point of view

I have to go grab some food
best to you all

[flatmama]

I never understood the whole needing to have the posters or anything else. I've been married for 7 years though so that probably makes a big difference. I can understand it more for a boyfriend though, then a husband because that long term commitment isn't there. Although I do find it really immature to have the posters. The whole thing with the guys always teasing or whatever about who wears the pants in the relationship....that never changes. I've found the guys that do that are really just insecure with themselves and their relationship so they have to try to be a 'man' around their buddies. My husband gets it at work all the time but luckily he's finally started, and I do repeat, started to grow up and get that just because you do something out of respect for you wife (or girlfriend) and actually care about her feelings, it doesn't make you less of a man. They all eventually get it......some just take a REALLY long time to get there.
As far as Hooter's goes...my husband went there once...said the food was horrible and the women, while endowed well up top, weren't great looking everywhere else. Maybe it was just the place he went. I didn't care that he went to hooter's......i just found out about it a week after he did it and he didn't tell me. The whole secrecy thing can really mess with a relationship. At least if he's telling you that he's going to hooter's and places like that, he's being honest and not sneaking around to check out other women. Mostly, it just sounds like your guy has alot of growing up to do. Remember, women always mature faster.

[adryx]

oh yeah...well when i found out about it it just "slipped" out....he was telling me abt this really funny thing...without intending to mention it happened at hooters...nd once he said it, it was clear that he didnt mean to actlly tell me. But i didnt freak out becuse i didnt even know what hooters was ...and then i found out...and then i went home for a weekend and i met up with him and his friends for dinner...everyone wanted to go to hooters ( my bf didnt state his preferences though haha)... we ended up going to a japanese restaurant...like i said everyone in the group tends to respect my wishes ...which is nice..... but i made a statement with that and they know perfectly well how i feel about it. Im sorry im just not into girls like that...so its really uncomf for me to have a girl lean to put my drink on teh table and show me her cleavage... i can live through it but ill make disgusting faces without even meaning to, and ill ruin my evening and prob the waitres' evening too
bf is really starting to mature a bit... this hooters thng started almost 2 years ago...i went away to college... he never did anything of teh sort b4....i know his friends wanted to go clubbing...and to stripbars in DC and he just didnt go...stayed home ...anyway we decided to still keep our relationship... but his friends were saying that i'm going to college and i wont b a saint etc. ... and then tehy started going to hooters....and 1st time he visits me...it slips lol
but you have no idea how upset i was abt it and we got into fights
and i didnt wanna tell him "dont do it"... i just wanted him to not want to do it by his own choosing... i just broke down one time when i was with him... i was pms-ing really badly ... an then i told him that i was pmsing and that i felt bad abt what i said and that he shouldnt change his "hang out " place cause ill feel bad... so i guess he just didnt hang out anymore looool
anyway its better now no more hooters thank goodness... and he doesnt hang out with his friends as much ... he prob realized they're not worth his fights with me ... hopefully
his friends are great. its just teh hooters thing that they step on my nerves with... tehy used to be my friends too...thats how my bf and i met, through them... but i started to see who tehy really were as persons... and my morals dont match theirs... and tehy're really behind as far as womens' education is concerned... they dont say anything in my face... but they hope i fail at life ...i just think it funny... b/c i hve quite a low self esteem... and yet, when im amongst them, i feel so much better about myself... and the person taht i am
my bf does not have posters with women...just cars and motorcycles ...but his mom still cleans his room...so i was thinking that may be the reason. Now, i dont know about his computer
lol
either way...he's a really nice guy ... not the kind you meet everyday... or every couple of years... the kind you meet once in 15 years )

much love to you all
adry

[sadiie]

every guy likes jessica alba

but then again, every girl is in love with brad pitt.