my roomate keeps throwing parties!

[yvonne]

Arg i don't know what to do! When he first moved in we told him that we don't want any parties in the house and he agreed to it!

But he keeps saying that he's just going to have a few friends over and that they're going to stay in the basement. I came home the other night and there was people every where and they were all the main floor. I kicked them out cause I wanted to go to bed. He hasn't cleaned up the spills since than and half of our cups are now missing.

I don't want to be a party pooper but I don't see why he can't go somewhere else! I told him that and he said that he won't have people over 'late' anymore. Im pretty sure his definition of late is much different than mine and the other girl that lives with us!

It stresses me and the other girl out because we have pets and don't want them to sneak outside when people linger at the doorway. We also don't feel comfortable with having random drunk men in our house that we don't know. When we party we do it elsewhere.

Why do men always have to push boundaries to see how far they can get away with!

Im not against partying but just don't want it in my house! I don't know what to do! I don't wanna go as far as to get him kicked out, but I want him to respect our space! Any advice?

yvonne

[mandy]

I think you are being way too tolerant and the more you allow this to go on the more chance you are taking of there being property damage and other risks too as far as your safety. But this opinion is coming from a mom so take from it what you wish.
You can give him an ultimatum and use police assistance if you need to, if you need to ask him to leave.
Who is the landlord? They should have some input also.
By the way if he doesn't already respect your house there is nothing you can do to force him to have respect and follow the rules you already made clear to him.