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Post by Tweety on Dec 17, 2005 11:51:07 GMT -5
Me too. It would kind of be like having a lot of money, you would never know if men truly wanted you for you, or your assets.
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Post by fushigiyuugi007ph on May 15, 2006 23:07:02 GMT -5
My boyfriend believes that my breast size is okay. He said he rather count our relationship and our emotional feelings rather than physical ones. He always say my body is "nice and already well proportioned". He always look after my own interest first before his own even when it comes to sex. he makes sure I have orgasm at least twice before he discharges.  |
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Post by twilightsrose on May 30, 2006 18:26:40 GMT -5
Hi Satu... I've been the same place you are... many times... I still feel self conscious from time-to-time... but just remember that, whether or not your guy is being 100% honest with you (he might just be trying to make you feel better... but thats not a bad thing), he did CHOOSE to go out with you, despite the fact that you are not the last woman on earth. If he didn't find you good enough, he'd most likely be with someone else. Guys might occasionally sleep with girls that they don't find attractive, but they don't usually stay in relationships with them. Just the fact that you are together means that you are good enough. Besides, as much as guys are obsessed with boobs, most of them also want something more... and guys who can't see past the boobs usually don't have much brains themselves anyhow.
Just remember that you have a wonderful man who is just trying to reassure you in the only way he knows how.
Oh yeah, and by the way... who says that those girls in the movie are perfect... take off the editing, special lighting or angles, and the make-up and possible body doubles, and you might see cellulite, stretchmarks, possible hints of implants (not naturally perfect), acne, scars or an imperfect personality outside of the movie, or other imperfections. Nobody is naturally perfect.
Take care!!!
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Post by satu on Jun 1, 2006 2:38:06 GMT -5
Thank you Twilightsrose.
I deleted my original message as i didn't want to leave something that personal in a forum.
I wrote what i feel like (mostly when i suddenly start panicing about it), but this is not what i know. What i know and what i feel are different. I guess most guys are obsessed about boobs, but not my guy. It's me who's obsessed about my boobs. He keeps telling me all the time i shouldn't be doing it.
I know he loves me just as i am and that he never, ever sees anyone else on any good level, but because of some things that caused me to feel this way, I get the awful feeling back quite often. Thank goodness, it's mostly under control these days. Been much much worse.
He's the only man i could ever imagine going out with and he says the same thing about me. Besides i don't really believe he would see other women at all when he says that if i had eyes for other men, he'd consider it cheating. So we're the same. Why would he do what he wouldn't accept me doing and what woyuld hurt me as well if he did it. I don't think he would do it.
Thank you very much for your support!
Satu
PS. I know those pictures. I've done modelling. My boyfriend is though the only person taking photos of me these days, except when taking photos for music promotion. Well, he takes most of those photos as well.
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Post by Michelle on Jun 3, 2006 0:28:23 GMT -5
Hi girls, so I have a question.. how can you become secure enough to show him your breasts when you're not satisfied with them yourself? I have nonexistant breasts (AAA or less) and I'm getting rather ashamed of them. I wear super padded bras so I look like I'm around an A or so. What will guys think if they see mee without the bras? Yeah I'm being very self conscious, esp because I just broke up with my bf of over 3 years and am just starting to consider dating new guys. This has always been one of my worries and fears because I feel like i'm deceiving other people and keeping my "secret" from them..
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Post by twilightsrose on Jun 3, 2006 1:51:56 GMT -5
starting over after a long relationship is a hard thing to do.... I went through the same thing back in 99'... completely started over after and moved to a new city... actually went a couple years without a relationship (although a few friendly dates...) I always padded to double my size... otherwise we wouldn't look like we had boobs in clothing...right? Are you looking for another relationship again? Something that I try to keep in perspective (for the past couple years) has been that the men that are worthwhile wouldn't be bothered by it in the first place....if a guy is too bothered by a physicality like small breasts, then he isn't worth having around. If you are worried about it, consider it a way to separate the guys who only want you for what you are on the outside, from the ones who will love you for your heart and soul... (I know maybe easier said then done...) Unlike the girls with the bigger boobs, it might make it easier to flush out the creeps  it could become a statement of pride of that you found the hard to find right guy (who can see beyond your breasts) when you bare your breasts to him. And yes... there are guys out there that see beyond the breasts... just harder to find, since in many cases they are too shy or don't have enough self esteem to ask a girl out, and aren't assertive enough to get "noticed" over the flashy slicker types (who usually break a girls heart)  You know, the majority of women are deceiving men in one way or another anyhow... with colouring hair, coloured contacts, fake nails, make-up (was created to deceive men), plastic surgery...etc etc.... Take care |
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Post by caligirl on Jun 7, 2006 14:21:22 GMT -5
no he thinks i am too big but i could care less because he is not happy with the rest of my body either. either love me or leave me, i swear NO GUY is worth changing for.
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Post by seagull on Jun 7, 2006 16:53:00 GMT -5
no he thinks i am too big but i could care less because he is not happy with the rest of my body either. either love me or leave me, i swear NO GUY is worth changing for. thats right, it up to you seagull |
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Post by cutie on Sept 5, 2006 7:48:02 GMT -5
well he says he'd hate it if i change them unless they change naturally, he also says they are perfect and beautiful and he does give them alot of attention. but he also (in big arguments) insults them but i think this mite be because he knows how insecure i am and wants to hurt me at the time. i think regardless of what he says i feel bad about them so i don't really take in his compliments but i do take in insults very deeply. it's all in my head i think |
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Post by angelface on Sept 6, 2006 11:31:53 GMT -5
My husband says he is happy with my boobs. I'm the one who is unhappy with them. My whole family was blessed with "D" and "DD" cup sizes. I got the "B" of the family. Although since I've been on BE I am now a "C" cup. (So I'm catching up.)
Most men are infatuated with boobs. It is sickening that our society has made us think small boobs are not good enough.
I bet if we women put such an emphasis on the size of a man's penis then they would have a forum just like ours except it would be called: PE. Men wouldn't be able to handle if we made comments that their penis is not big enough...
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Post by em357304 on Sept 6, 2006 19:27:55 GMT -5
My boyfriend has always said he loved them...he refuses to let me have surgery...and even when I was looking into doing it naturally he was still really skeptical, concerned about my health...it took me forever to convince him that it was safe...I know that he loves my breasts, but I also know that he wouldn't mind if they were bigger Lol...there actually is a board similar to that out there...I came across it one day when I was doing research about breast enlargement...I decided to check out if there was any natural ways to enhance the male area ...and I guess that there are exercises...men are self conscious too I guess! |
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Post by olivia on Sept 18, 2006 11:44:03 GMT -5
My boyfriend likes mine. He always tells me their nice and everything. Im the one that brought up nbe but he doesnt mind it lol. He doesnt want me to get too big though. which I dont mind cuz I dont want to be too big either. just a full B.
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Post by velvetblasphemy on Sept 30, 2006 21:34:12 GMT -5
Like many others on here, my boyfriends insists he loves my little AA cups. I've mentioned the surgrey several times just to see his reaction and he is VERY against me ever doing it. He thinks I'm perfect for him the way I am and gets very upset when I insult myself.
I'm going to do the NBE for me, I mean, sure he'll benefit from it too, even if he won't admit to it. But I just don't want to have to feel so embarassed anymore. I don't want to have to feel bad about myself when I see other girls with large breasts... or any breasts at all for that matter.
He's not complaining about me doing the NBE cause I believe he thinks it won't work. And I think he knows its what I want and will really make me happier.
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Post by littlelibrarian on Oct 11, 2006 18:57:21 GMT -5
I agree with you, I'm doing this for me!
Although I have found magazines etc., that my husband has and they do hurt when I see them; I realize that all of those magazines would never have a woman as small as myself posing nude. He's always hidden them from me after finding one when we first married and freaking out; Ive caused him to hide them, but sometimes I do run across one that (apparently ) a friend has given him.
My hubby has never ever said anything to me about the size of my boobs, it's my insecurities that has me doing this. I'd like to wear a bikini one day that's all - I feel self conscious in a lot of situations like going to the beach etc.
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Post by bonnette on Oct 15, 2006 14:04:24 GMT -5
well i had an issue of a kind as well with my ex a while ago when i was checking one of his magazines (given by his lesbian flatmate). So when i was on a page of a very busty blondie he just came to me saying that he liked me just so much more. Of course i didn't believe him at that time (sorry now) but it only says when love happen love is blind and thank god for that |
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