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Post by lilsx1 on Feb 6, 2004 22:42:44 GMT -5
 I am sad because I want another baby, not only for a larger family, but someone for my little girl to have. Siblings always provide a bond of love and understanding, someone who is there when no one else is... I don't know how to encourage my husband to feel the same way, it doesn't matter what I say, he just doesn't want anymore! This makes me sad, and makes me worry about my daughter feeling lonely or like she is missing out on something important... just venting I guess... Is there anyone here that was/is an only child that can tell me it's not so bad to grow up that way? Or is it? Help!!!
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Post by princess26 on Feb 6, 2004 23:43:43 GMT -5
Hey girl,
Sorry that u are sad...I too want another child and am having trouble convincing my hubby to get in on it. I have 2 kids now...but my oldest child was almost 7 before I had my youngest.
I am not an only child, but most of my close friends are. They didn't really complain...some of them actually say they are glad they were an only child...more attention I guess...lol...
Anyway, how old is your daughter? Even though my kids are not close in age, and will never be in the same school at the same time, I am personally glad that there is such a difference in age. The oldest is more helpful and is old enough to assume some responsibilty now.
I know this makes u sad now, but think of it this way...u can always drug the hubby and take advantage of him...then act like u don't know how u got pregnant.
For me, this would only take one time...I could sit next to someone and get pregnant...lol...
Also, be thankful for the child u do have...many couples can't concieve on their own. I know it's hard when u want another baby and obviously can't make it happen by yourself. Maybe he'll come around and change his mind.
What are his reasons as to why he doesn't want another baby? And how old are the two of you, if u don't mind me asking...
Hope u feel better.
Lots of hugs to u,
Kelly
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Post by lilsx1 on Dec 23, 2004 19:46:41 GMT -5
It's been a long time since I have been on here! Lots of catching up to do. We are 27 (well I will be in January). He just doesn't want anymore and has now convinced me not to have another one because our daughter is now getting to the age where she can start doing some stuff herself and will be in school in a couple years so now that I think of it that way I don't want to go through all of that again... well without his support anyway. Like you said though - I will be thankful for my baby girl. I know she was meant for us and I just hope she is happy as an only child. I am happy to hear your friend was happy to be an only child *yay*  I think as women those moods come and go (maternal instinct). Despite ourselves, especially mothers *lol* |
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Post by Venus on Jan 10, 2005 10:56:34 GMT -5
lilsx1,
Two of my friends were an only child, and several of my friends and relatives have only children now (some who are grown). Most of them don't have any complaints. Infact, I remember one of them telling me that he had the best of both worlds because he had friends or cousins to play with, and then they would go home at the end of the day and he would have everything to himself again (his parents, toys, peace and quiet, etc).
I personally grew up with brothers and sisters, but I watched my nephew grow up as an only child. I can see advantages and disadvantages of both. I think children for the most part grow up happy with what they know (be it with siblings or alone), and don't know what they are missing if they've never had it. What's most important is that your daughter has parents who love her. She will make friends when she gets older and starts school, and then maybe she will feel like she has the best of both worlds too!
Venus
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Post by lilsx1 on Jan 10, 2005 19:12:22 GMT -5
Well I am glad to hear that they didn't grow up upset that they didn't have someone to share things with! We provide as much as possible and she already has a best friend (at 2!!!) so that rocks and I am not so worried anymore. Thanks again for the information!!!
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Post by thames on Nov 30, 2005 22:04:58 GMT -5
 Well I am glad to hear that they didn't grow up upset that they didn't have someone to share things with! We provide as much as possible and she already has a best friend (at 2!!!) so that rocks and I am not so worried anymore. Thanks again for the information!!! this is going sound crazy ladies, but I would like to have a baby too. ;
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Post by akira on Dec 1, 2005 4:18:35 GMT -5
I know this may sound like a dumb idea, but maybe instead of having a baby of your own, maybe just get a puppy? That way, your daughter can have some sort of companion.(yeah I know its nothing compared to having a sibling)Plus not all kids react kindly to having to share. I know as a child, when my mom had my sister I was extremely upset because well we barely had much of anything and now we were going to have to stretch it that much further. That and its not fun having to wake up to a baby crying, trying to go to your mom when you want something and not being able to get the full attention that you want because of the baby needs that much more attention than you do.
Plus maybe the reason why your husband doesn't want another child is because of money woes. I mean you may be financially comfortable now, but with a baby, things get expensive all over again. That and maybe he's thinking of things like, with a baby on the way it means you both can't spend as much time together as you have been or many other things like that.
It may be a better thing to wait to have a child again because the space between ages can help a lot with child rearing(meaning you could have your other child help take care of the baby as well)as well as not having to worry about the other child disliking the baby because you can't provide it the attention it wants.
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Post by joyce on Dec 5, 2005 19:09:32 GMT -5
I am an only child and am happy, very happy, that its so.
I like having alone time and I like getting all the attention from my parents. I don't have any sharing or bonding problems either, I just simply like what being an only child comes with.
On another note I think its a little effed up if you want another child and your husband doesn't- unless there is a problem like your health, not being able to support it, etc.
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Post by blueangel on Dec 9, 2005 0:06:04 GMT -5
please do not refer to babies or childen as "its" that really irks .
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Post by thames on Dec 9, 2005 2:18:01 GMT -5
I am sad because I want another baby, not only for a larger family, but someone for my little girl to have. Siblings always provide a bond of love and understanding, someone who is there when no one else is... I don't know how to encourage my husband to feel the same way, it doesn't matter what I say, he just doesn't want anymore! This makes me sad, and makes me worry about my daughter feeling lonely or like she is missing out on something important... just venting I guess... Is there anyone here that was/is an only child that can tell me it's not so bad to grow up that way? Or is it? Help!!! I would love to have baby to, |
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Post by thames on Dec 9, 2005 2:21:10 GMT -5
please do not refer to babies or childen as "its" that really irks . i agree |
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Post by bluedolphin on Mar 16, 2006 21:07:52 GMT -5
I am sad because I want another baby, not only for a larger family, but someone for my little girl to have. Siblings always provide a bond of love and understanding, someone who is there when no one else is... I don't know how to encourage my husband to feel the same way, it doesn't matter what I say, he just doesn't want anymore! This makes me sad, and makes me worry about my daughter feeling lonely or like she is missing out on something important... just venting I guess... Is there anyone here that was/is an only child that can tell me it's not so bad to grow up that way? Or is it? Help!!! I would love to have one too |
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