Post by SomeGirl on Dec 14, 2003 14:09:44 GMT -5
I just got a job promo! There's a guy named Frank whose liked me for about 3 years. We kissed 3 years ago when I was not in his department. (My company has literally 7,000 workers so I'm not as anti-dating at work, but will be now). We went on 2 dates, kissed once, that's it.
I work with John (who is in a completely seperate department). We dated for 8 months this past year. Frank said ever since we met he has feelings for me and he wishes he had tried harder to win my heart. That he is jealous. That inside he has kept feelings for me that he can't keep to himself anymore. John and I recently broke up and Frank said this only 2 months ago. This week he sent me an e-mail asking to hang out and joked that I broke his heart but he finally got over it. I have had the flu and he wanted to come over and take care of me.
I decided to tell Frank I didn't have romantic feelings for him but I liked talking with him. That I wanted to clarify if he was joking or serious in his feelings. That I couldn't hang out with him knowing he has feelings for me that I can't reciprocate. Now that we work together I just wanted to lay it on the table to avoid any misunderstandings.
So he tells me people don't like me because I act like I am holier than tho and one day I'll realize I am not. That I do the things everyone else does. The list of insults went on. That he was only trying to be friends and wasn't interested in me. He denied the things he said. He also said we could maintain a work relationship but don't bother talking to him as a friend.
He treated me like a stuck up self rightous b**tch to save face. I told him he took the "professional relationship" to the wrong direction with insults about his perceptions of me. I don't care what others think of me unless they spend some time with me and actually know about my life. That part is true. However, I am dissapointed in someone I thought had some class. D**n straight now I feel better then he is. I have to work with him and would have appreciated it if he had been a normal well adjusted adult and just said he's not interested. He could've stopped calling me and trying to always go out with me if he felt that way. He could have stopped telling he had feelings if he doesn't. Now I am frustrated by an idiot I have to work with. I was trying to be considerate and understand his feelings. He told me he had feelings for me only recently so I was hardly acting out of context. If he can't remember all his words and actions he needs help and if he does remember them he still needs help. By the way, he's in his 30's and so am I. However, I am not acting as a participant in his conversation that is heading in a direction worse than a pre-pubescent girl in an identidy crisis.
I work with John (who is in a completely seperate department). We dated for 8 months this past year. Frank said ever since we met he has feelings for me and he wishes he had tried harder to win my heart. That he is jealous. That inside he has kept feelings for me that he can't keep to himself anymore. John and I recently broke up and Frank said this only 2 months ago. This week he sent me an e-mail asking to hang out and joked that I broke his heart but he finally got over it. I have had the flu and he wanted to come over and take care of me.
I decided to tell Frank I didn't have romantic feelings for him but I liked talking with him. That I wanted to clarify if he was joking or serious in his feelings. That I couldn't hang out with him knowing he has feelings for me that I can't reciprocate. Now that we work together I just wanted to lay it on the table to avoid any misunderstandings.
So he tells me people don't like me because I act like I am holier than tho and one day I'll realize I am not. That I do the things everyone else does. The list of insults went on. That he was only trying to be friends and wasn't interested in me. He denied the things he said. He also said we could maintain a work relationship but don't bother talking to him as a friend.
He treated me like a stuck up self rightous b**tch to save face. I told him he took the "professional relationship" to the wrong direction with insults about his perceptions of me. I don't care what others think of me unless they spend some time with me and actually know about my life. That part is true. However, I am dissapointed in someone I thought had some class. D**n straight now I feel better then he is. I have to work with him and would have appreciated it if he had been a normal well adjusted adult and just said he's not interested. He could've stopped calling me and trying to always go out with me if he felt that way. He could have stopped telling he had feelings if he doesn't. Now I am frustrated by an idiot I have to work with. I was trying to be considerate and understand his feelings. He told me he had feelings for me only recently so I was hardly acting out of context. If he can't remember all his words and actions he needs help and if he does remember them he still needs help. By the way, he's in his 30's and so am I. However, I am not acting as a participant in his conversation that is heading in a direction worse than a pre-pubescent girl in an identidy crisis.
