goody-goody's

[pammy]

You know them, the people that never take chances. They never tear the tag off mattresses, or drive over the speed limit. Live and let live. That's their business. But when they start getting into my face, I have a problem with it. Share your views, great! Don't shove your ideals into their face or make them feel small. I had (notice I said 'had') a friend who always gave her opinion on everything, and if you did something she didn't like or agree with she was very vocal about it, tsk-tsking. Everyone should think and do exactly like she did.
People can do everything right... they can eat in the 4 food groups, always attend every church service, never walk out of the house without spf 45 on, never smoke, never drink, never take a chance with anything... I say BORING! Live people!! Take a chance once in your life. Or just let me take a chance without bashing me for it. Yes, we know better. I know that cig I had yesterday wasn't good for me. I know that 1 glass of wine I had last night wasn't good for me, or that candy I got from work, or when I drove over the speed limit. Ya know what? SO WHAT! Everyone dies, I think it's how you choose to live that will make your life a joy or a misery. I choose to live, I choose to take a risk now and then, I choose to be happy living life. You can share your concerns without making someone feel insignificant or stupid, thank you.
I'm usually and extremely sensible person, but every once in a while I like to shake things up. Goody-goody's just get to me sometimes. Thanks for letting me vent....

[mominator]

okay...I admit it.... I have taken the tag off my mattress and my PILLOW! And proud of it. And the DANG MATRESS OR PILLOW police did NOT come and get me! ;D I did get a warning in the mail about it though!

And....and....another thing! I refuse to use my hair dryer while showering!

I hear ya' Pammy! Live and let live! Explain how my 32 brother who never, drank or smoked...what a goody-goody died of a rare cancer. Just happens...ENJOY LIFE! And growin' dem boobies!

Hugs!
Momi'

[Drewsgirl41]

Hi Pammy,

I hope I didn't come off as one of those "goody two shoes" who "knows it all" when I responded to the post about tanning beds. I has just read that article in Self magazine and it concerned me. I was just trying to help. I hope I didn't sound "preachy". I just think sometimes you have to try to help people with information that is important. What they do with it is their business. I understand that. But I tend to look at this way, if I see a person drowning and I am standing on the shore with a lifering in my hands and I don't try to at least throw it to them, what kind of person am I?

Anyway I hope I didn't offend you. I sure didn't mean to.

Have a great day today and every day!!!

Colleen

[mommabean]

Hi Pammy,

I'm very sorry to have offended you. I'm sorry that you feel the need to call names simply because I, or others, care about you. You have such a great pair of breasts that it's a shame to watch you permanently damage your skin. The industry that preaches moderation in tanning has a definite motive involved. And it's not to your benefit.

Malignanent melanoma and lung cancer are two of the most deadly forms of cancer and you are setting yourself up for both. Call me goody goody for caring. I realize it's hard for you to understand until you hear a doctor tell you to your face, "I'm sorry, it's not good news. You have melanoma". And to simply lower your risk of skin cancer by avoiding intentional overexposure to the sun doesn't take all the fun out of life. It actually adds to the fun by taking the pressure off of having to have a temporary useless tan and focusing on lifetime good looking skin. It's so much easier and leaves more time for good healthy fun.

Yes, I've always taken my antioxidants but excess rays are much easier to avoid and far cheaper than pills. Cheaper than surgery, too.

I'm sorry but I felt it to be very important to be sure the the original question poster be answered with honesty about the real risk.

And wine has health benefits, red wine in particular. In moderation of course. And not behind the wheel of your speeding car...or even at the speed limit of course. Call me goody goody, but I don't drink and drive.

Yes, people can get cancer with no risk factors. But it's a commonly known fact that certain behaviours do increase your risk greatly.

My sister had half the roof of her mouth removed all the way up into her sinus cavity due to adenocarcinoma. No risk factor could be identified. I had melanoma with an obvious connection to my sun exposure which I could have easily avoided had I not believe it wouldn't happen to me.

I personally think implants are safer than excess sun exposure. Wouldn't you like your skin to look naturally healthy and glow and look as great as your breasts when you are 50? The choice IS yours. I only offer you something to think about because I care about you and others. Someone has to care about others in life. I guess that is left up to us goody goodies.

[lild]

I think if you are trying to care for others, you should also try to sound more caring... instead of saying "Oh, you're going to die! Your day will come."

[mommabean]

Uh...."Oh, you're going to die! Your day will come." ? Who said that?

I do see that there was something said about not having leathery skin. And I made a comment to that end. Women who tan themselves purposely don't have leathery skin in their 30s. But if they continue with that habit their day WILL come. That is the honest to God truth. My grandfather was a fishing boat captain and all exposed areas of his body were leathery by the time he was in his 50s. I spent many summers in the Bahamas as a teenage and saw that most over 50s who spent any time in the sun had leathery skin. That's about how long it takes. Didn't stop me though. I wanted my tan. I learned my lesson the hard way.

Please, when quoting me, make sure it's correct. I didn't say what you said I said.

Just trying to be helpful.

As a cancer survivor, it would be rieal nice if you could manage to see that I'm only speaking from experience and not pick apart every little word I say.

Aren't you the one who managed to insult me at the other board....unprovoked?? Who was it who told me that I never say anything helpful? Maybe it's not helpful if it's not what one wants to hear. But maybe it's helpful to others.

Oh I see, that was lilsx1 - maybe that's not you. Sorry I can't put a positive slant on malignant melanoma. But I'm happy I don't have it anymore and I'll continue to warn others about the dangers of overexposure to the sun...and tanning booths. Both really are things that everyone can do without. And some people do find this information to be helpful.

I can't help with BE because it never worked for me. But I'm still happy. In spite of being small breasted. I've got my life. Yippee! At least for today.

[stel]

Not that I post that much on the board, but logging in everyday (ok ok more than that ;D) I think most of us come in for the support, inspiration and information.

All the suggestions and personal suggestions are just that - a wealth of information and I'm grateful for every single piece of it. Everyone's entitled their own choice right?

But with more ppl sharing their personal experiences, at least we can make an "informed choice" (okay, when i start talking like that i know i should stop studying! - exams)

I dont know about anyone else, but I want to say a huge Thank You to every single person who posts + shares their thoughts here coz I've really learnt and gained a lot from all of you (tho I must say I wished I could say it was in cup size! )

Please don't let that stop!

[mominator]

Did you tear your tags from the pillow and mattress too Stel?

[stel]

Without a second's delay! ;D

Information is one thing, doing as they say is another

[lild]

Wasn't trying to quote you Mommabean. Just trying to give you an idea of how saying things in a certain way will cause people to respond negatively. By making opening statements like the one you've made in the other thread is obviously going to stir up bad feelings. I think sharing your personal experience is a wonderful and valuable thing, but it can do without the amateur, doomsday diagnosis.

[marshall97]

This is the original post, quoted in this thread vs. the original:
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I've never been in a tanning booth before.. Just wondering if anybody has any experience (good or bad) with it. I found this place close to my home that has it for $5 per 20 minute session... I wanna try it out. Is it just as bad for the skin as the sun is?
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So, some responses were in favor of the tanning booth, and others were against it. Some talked about "good" experiences, some talked about "bad" experiences involving the topic of tanning. Isn't that exactly what was asked for in the first place?
Sometimes I just don't understand where all the drama comes from.

M97

[fawnmarie]

I don't tear the tags from my pillows.

Too lazy.

I have lots of other bad habits, though.

Fawn

[Tweety]

ARGH! I had a coworker who was beyond goody-goody.

This woman was a living Dilbert cartoon. I used to refer to her as bobble-head cause she reminded me of one of those bobble-head dolls old ladies have in their back window of their cars. Everything my boss said she was uh-huh-uh-huh-uh-huh!

One day when I printed shipping labels I wrote "2end Avenue" instead of "2nd" This lady went over about 40 labels with correction tape, whiting out the extra "e"

She knew my boss's children's schedule better than my boss did. She would work most evenings and even take stuff home on the weekends to work on FOR FREE! When I asked her why she did that she said that sometimes she did stuff on company time, such as when she went to deposit my boss's cheque into her account (yes, she did boss's personal banking, too) she would do her own as well. WOW, 5 minutes of company time, better burn the midnight oil for that one. She was on my back about everything. She told me I had to take initiative so when I came up with an idea she would totally shut it down. It didn't matter what it was. And instead of telling me they weren't going to use my idea politely, I'd get this whiney, pained voice, "Well that's not what I WANTED!" worse than a little kid.

She would finish off my boss's sentences and her head would be bobbing in agreement before my boss could finish making her point. I used to think my boss was cool and could see through it, but she totally bought into it. I could barely say anything before old bobble would be giving me the, "Wellllllllllll..."

I decided to leave the job because my boss made it clear I wasn't wanted there. I wasn't a team player. I could have been if I had feigned interest in my boss's children, gossiped and cut down others along with her (I heard her cackling like a witch to one of her friends on the phone about a poor lawyer who's wife had left him for another woman...to give you an idea of what this woman was like). The whole place made me sick and I left. I would rather be unemployed than in an atmosphere like that where nothing was ever good enough...how could I compete with a coworker who hung on my boss's every word? and why would I want to?
While I don't consider myself 'bad', I'm not perfect either. I try to be conscious of "removing the fleck from my brother's eye" because I'm sure I have plenty of my own. And I can see where the constant advice is annoying, especially when no one is asking for it. Another thing I'm learning, to LISTEN. These are situations that teach me the most.

And thank you for listening to me