Help! Something smells down there!

[ladyvirgo1981]

Recently my ex's new girlfriend (OK they have been together for a year, but I was with him for 11 of those months) informed me of all the negative attributes about me he has told her (including making fun of my little breast).

The most painful remark was "your girl thingy smells terrible".

Every time I think of this my brain just goes into shock.

I have smelled the horror below several times, but had wrongly assumed this is the way everyone smelled and I was just having body issues. But if the womanizing ex smelled it, something must be dieing! (That or it is just trying to repeal against him.)

Has anyone had this problem or have any suggestions?

[satu]

Hi Ladyvirgo1981,

First of all, you don't need to stay in any kind of contact with your ex or his girlfriend. This will only make a mess of your life, especially when you get a new boyfriend. It's of course up to you, but in my culture and family it's not even acceptable.

Secondly, the new girlfriend said these things because she was insecure about herself. These things might come completely out of her head not from his. In any case she showed how insecure she is and how scared that you were better. I know it hurts very badly when someone says anything like this, but really and truly she showed only her own problems to you. So you don't need her or him in your life to make you feel miserable.

I'm sure your breasts are not any worse than anyone elses. It'd be impossible. There are men who like small breasts or big breasts and then there are the good men who would not pay any attention to the size of the breasts of a woman they are interested in. They are intellectual and have more between their ears than just air. These men do exist, but are very rare. My boyfriend is a proof.

Regarding the smell, If you think it's a very strong, weird smell and doesn't go away with a normal shower for a while, I'd suggest you'd visit a doctor who'd check it for you. I know that if you have an infection, which probably is not dangerous, but needs medication, this can create more smell. Also some bacteria can do this. Everyone, including men, has their own smell down there and it does come out naturally more if one has not had a shower for some hours and has been sitting tight or working hard.

So use your own consideration and decide if the smell is really a problem or just that not-so-clever girl's way to hurt you. You can always go to see a doctor for just the peace of your mind.

You can always do a search in google for smell and infection.

Hope this helps,
Satu

[ladyvirgo1981]

Thanks Satu,

I agree that I need to stay away from them and have been. At the time this incedent occured, I did not know he was with her (and she did not know he was still with me). A lot of her words were coming out of pain, but she said them all right in front of him, and he just noded his head in an agreement fashion. The cheating I am over. Him I am over. Him sharing those secreats and than just letting her attack me is unforgivable.

I have tried seeing a doctor and was told to take birth control. (Actualy, the doctor was trying to throw Yasmin at me the mineut I walked in.) I don't know if it helped any because it made me sick the whole month I was on it. The smell was worse when I got off it though. I am trying to see another doctor, but getting time of work is a problem. I realy hope it is just an infection that can be quickley cured.

Thanks for your help!

Ladyvirgo1981

[fawnmarie]

Sometimes "girl thingies" smell worse than other times, it can change during your cycle and I'm not exactly sure what hormones it's associated.

Now - screw them altogether - that was just f**king awful. I can't really believe she had the nerve or cruelty to say that to you.

While I shove my eyeballs back into my head from sheer disbelief, I will offer some advice, and that is - if the smell bothers YOU - and it isn't a persistant thing (off and on), then besides taking it to a doctor, do consider getting a small reuseuable douche bag (drug store) and douching with either clear water or clear water with a couple teaspoons of vinegar in it when you shower or bathe. (Don't use vinegar right before sex, obviously.)

That's always worked for me when I was feeling a bit less than fresh.

[bonnette]

...and in addition, there are several specific washing-gels for that area to fight against the bad bacteria and said to be very efficient.


and please dont take these kids seriously please !!!

[em357304]

I've been told by my gyno not to used douches often (not that you never can) because of it getting rid of the good bacteria also, so I use the gel cleanser, I have for a few months now...I saw them at the store one day and I thought I would try it just to see what it was all about (a few friends use them and my mom)...Whenever I use it it always makes me feel 'cleaner'...if I dont use them I can tell, not by scent, it just feels different, kind of like when you don't have you purse and you feel naked ...I think you should give them a try, it might make you feel better about it...it's worth a shot it's only about 2 or 3 dollars...

*and for what it's worth you should never listen to something that you ex's new girl says, there's a good chance that she hated you before she even met you

[Wenonae]

Instead of a shower, do a good soak in the bathtub with a big bottle of hydorgen peroxide and your favorite bath bubbles. The peroxide will nuetralize any excess bacteria.

G'luck.

Wen'

[tiamaria]

Hi
Apart from the shock of hearing what was said to you which was so wrong and so indicative of the girls issues, I think it would be wise for you to consider having a check up in that area. Often women get infections there, can be related to stress, pill, sex, tampons. Happened to me earlier this year. And you might need an antibiotic to clear it. If you are not into this, try putting two drops of tea tree oil on a tampon overnight for a few nights to see if it help or see a homeopath. It did help me although I still went to clinic. Get tested for Chlamydia as many women (and men) have this without symptoms and sometimes with such as a discharge and/or smell. Do this for your own sake, not because of the girl being cruel as this Std can cause infertility if left unchecked. Also get tested for BV which is a bacterial infection can cause smell and discharge. Hope I have not said too much but it has been my experience to take care of myself and take precautions instead of many of my friends whom it never occurs to have regular cheack up and tests (even if you are not sexually active).A lso bear in mind the immaturity of your ex who may not "get" that everyone has smells, including himself too! Take care
Tia

[ladyvirgo1981]

Thank you so much everyone for your suggestions and words of encouragement! The smell had bothered me, but I had foolishly thought it was something all girls go though. Part of me is glad she had said something because now I know it is something I need to take care of and have checked. I haven't noticed the smell lately (I do have a theory on that) so I haven't had a chance to try any of the suggestions yet, but I will if the smell ever comes back. (If my theory is correct than I should be free of the smell.)

I'm glad to say I'm no longer mad at the new girlfriend. It was easy for him to lie to us separately, but harder when we were both in the room. She was just hurt and wanted to know if it was true. I could and should have left right than, but I wanted to study his body language around the two of us so no matter what lies he would tell me without her there, I would remember when we were both in the room, he chose her, not me.

As for him...I am over him, but I will never be over this kind of betrayal. My actions in bed, my unclothed body, and my personal smells were secrets I shared with him and he betrayed me just to make her feel bether about herself. I will never be over that.

Thank you everyone for your help and support.