tips on potty training

[mansi]

Hi everyone,
My daughter is ready for her potty training. she knows very well when she has to go potty ( i am not sure if she knows about peeing too well, but i think she can get that very fast if i leave her without diaper and tell her every time she pees).
my problem is my daughter absolutely refuses to sit on the potty. she has no problem sitting on the potty when she does not have to do "anything". but when she has to either pee or poop, she absolutely refuses to sit on the potty.

how do i make her do things on the potty?
her potty is very comfortable and she does not have any problem with it.

I need help
Thanks
Mansi

[MYSTery]

She may be thinking of the potty as just a nice place to sit. It may seem unnatural to her to actually 'do something' in their. Remember-it has been a very natural thing for her to 'do something' nice and easy in her diaper or pull-up, so therefore it would seem very strange to her, the thought of putting that stuff in that nice chair! Question-do you let her watch you go to the bathroom? If not, you should. To some this may seem embarrassing, but that is the one good way to show her that it is normal and natural, and a grown up thing to do. Let her watch you use the toilet, and then even show her what was left inside when you are done. it will help her put two and two together.

Myst

[mansi]

Hi Mystery,
She has seen me peeing. I take her inside to pee with me and tell her. But not for poopy.
But she refuses to sit on potty and pee. the moment i take her out of potty, she will pee on the floor. it is very frustating.
Mansi

[MYSTery]

Hi Mansi,

Hmm... how old is your daughter?

Myst

[fawnmarie]

There's a pretty lengthy thread in 'Off Topic" about potty training - probably not too long ago.

Fawn

[mansi]

Hi Mystery,
My daughter is 21 months old.

Mansi

[MYSTery]

If I remember correctly, children only really start to get control of their bladder around 18 months. So, saying that, she may be only starting to work on that control. I remember having the same prob. with one of my kids, and when they would start to do the peeing on the floor, I would rush the potty beneath their bottom (even only catching a tiny amount), and then show them inside the potty and do the whole "yeah!" thing (ignoring the fact that most of it was on the floor. Don't do anything negative, that will only set her back). After awhile of that they seemed to understand and try a little harder. Sorry I don't have anything better to offer..

Myst

[fawnmarie]

I remember reading that there is an inverted bell curve of "trainability" for toddlers.

At 15-20 months they train easy
at 20-30 they don't train
at 30+ they are easy again.

Honestly - after I learned that, I relaxed, bought more diapers and waited until my son was a little older and then "bootcamped" him - and after he was 30 months or so - and it only took three days.

My younger one was bowel trianed (by his own initiative) at 18 months, but then regressed and wasn't trainable again until he was around 30 months.

Apparently there's some kind of developmental stage around the age of two that makes them difficult to train, so you either have to start early or wait until later (or might as well wait and save yourself the agravation).


Fawn

[fawnmarie]

The other thread on potty-training is in "Gripes" and I just bumped it.

Fawn

[princess26]

Hey there....just my 2 cents here...I was the one who posted about my daughter in the gripes section a while back. I tried with my daughter right around her 2nd bday, and to be quite honest, she just wasn't ready. She is still training at the moment...doing very well, and just a few accidents here and there ;D
My advice to u is this...my daughter just turned 3 last month...she was tough to train, but at the same time I agree with Fawn when she made the statement of it being really hard to train at the age your child is at now. Everytime I tried, she was having nothing to do with it. She would sit on the potty with her diaper on, but wanted nothing to do with actually taking the diaper off to go. Around the time that I started my post, was when I tried to train her again...which was I think the 4th time we had tried to train her.
My daughter is very, very active...and I think this has alot to do with how easily they take to potty training. It was literally one of the most challenging things I have ever had to do.
If your child is adamant about NOT sitting on the potty...don't force it. What I did was keep the potty out and ready...and like someone else said, let them see u potty too. Take them into the bathroom and have them sit on their potty when u are going. Not that they have to go too, but this will give them the idea.
I would ask your child if they have to use the potty every now and again, but leave it up to them.
Try again later...and see what happens. Many kids aren't trained at the age of 2 these days...most are closer to 3!
I know that changing diapers gets real old...but they have to get the idea of what it feels like to have to go potty before they can ever begin to understand why we are wanting them to use a potty. It's all foreign now, so give it time and be patient. It will happen!
I feel for u tho, been there...no fun!
Hope this helps,
Kelly

[mansi]

Hi Fawn and Kelly,
Thanks a lot
I have to gear up again and will let u know how it goes for me.

Mansi