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Post by hydeandseek on Oct 6, 2005 17:02:22 GMT -5
hi, i don't know what's wrong with me lately, but i've just lost interest in sex. i've been married 4 years now and its just lately, i go thru the motions, but frankly i'd rather just get another hour of sleep instead. i'm not taking any breast herbs now, but have been frusturated about my breast size for the past year and a half. my job is very busy and stressful and i don't have no kids. when i was single i was alwasys raring to go and now im worn out by the time night falls. i heard breast herbs can help libido, but thay made me so tired all the time that it did no good? does anybody else out there have this same problem?
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yuna0z
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Post by yuna0z on Oct 6, 2005 18:44:33 GMT -5
I need to increase my libido. I have been lacking it for a while. I already know it is not due to herbs. Maybe I am not confident? Is there a way to increase sex drive?
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Post by Ruderico on Oct 7, 2005 7:14:15 GMT -5
I share the same problem! But I did notice that when I'm not stressed or tired, my libido increases substantially. I also think my BCP - microgynon 30 - has something to do with it, so when I've finished this strip, I will begin with the Yasmin pill. Hope that will help too.
But I have one tip: do have sex, even though you sometimes don't feel like it, because good sex is also a good turn on for the days that follow. If you wait too long, this 'turn-on effect' will disappear quickly. Just keep in mind sex is always good for you. Secondly, it's good for keeping intimacy in your relationship.
And if you have trouble getting excited - only if you have an open mind for it - watching porn, alone or together, can be very effective!
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atag
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Post by atag on Oct 8, 2005 7:26:19 GMT -5
Hey all..Ok i know i might get a lot of gasps for this but is there anytng i can do to decrease my sex drive...? I think i have a lil too much of it  which is causin more pain than gain. I would like to not feel like doin it anytime all the time...Any suggestions..? |
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Post by Ruderico on Oct 8, 2005 10:59:26 GMT -5
Don't sleep, take BCP and many phytoestrogens! Lol! ;D But serious now: are you single or do you have a partner? Because before I had a BF, and experienced regular sex with someone that respected me, I couldn't help thinking about sex all day. (Therefore I find it so weird that feeling is all gone recently)  ) So, regular sex with someone you like, might reduce the intens hunger for sex. But if you already have a partner, the story might be completely different. In that case, ask yourself whether your libido is so-called "extreme" and his libido "normal", or that your partner has libido problems and you just desperately seek satisfaction! |
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Post by atag on Oct 10, 2005 3:22:45 GMT -5
Ok see the story is this..I have a boyfriend of 5 yrs & our sex was great for like 4 yrs. It is now as well but not as often thats all. Even he had a very big appetite for sex but its all gone now & mine has remained. I guess u can say he is normal i might be a lil hyper..heehee..But i'm jus worried why his libido has gone down so much. It cud be stress there's lots on his mind but so do i! Somehow my drive isn't affected but. I'm also cravin some some badly needed attention from him so i don't wanna be the one jumpin on him all the time! I'd rather not feel like doin it & be happy when he does.
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Post by Ruderico on Oct 10, 2005 8:29:57 GMT -5
So, it's not really you that is "extreme", your partner is experiencing a lower libido!
Try to talk about this with him, because the fact that you are desperately seeking attention, also increases the need for sex and the intimacy it gives you. Maybe it really is his work that stresses him, or maybe he feels that you two need to experiment e little more. Either way, an understanding of the problem always eases your mind! And maybe your libido decreases as well as you find out that he does like you and find you attractive, but that he is just stressed and tired.
Men can also lose libido you know! My boyfriend also experiences a loss of libido (although less than I do), now he is experiencing a lot of work pressure and less sleep.
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Post by fawnmarie on Oct 10, 2005 12:26:47 GMT -5
For women - to increase sex drive - try damiana. To decrease sex drive - try saw palmetto.
Fawn
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atag
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Post by atag on Oct 11, 2005 2:15:10 GMT -5
I know it can be stress but isn't sex a good stress reliever?? ;D I know he doesn't need more experimenting coz we're quite adventurous. hehe.... Well we've talked, explained, everything but no real result. He jus says he's not up for so much action & then if he gets pissed advises me to find someone else who can satisfy my large appetite.  So i think its best i reduce my drive. Fawn i've been takin SP for a month & a half now. In my 2nd cycle i ramped up to 4050 mg per day. I haven't felt any difference till now. Should i increase the dosage or does it take longer to see any difference..? |
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Post by fawnmarie on Oct 11, 2005 10:07:54 GMT -5
Men generally find stress to be anti-libido, whereas women respond more positively to stress.
I swear, whoever designed us planned ahead to reduce overpopulation! What's with that? And the alternating "sex peak" years? What were they thinking?
4050 might not be enough to drop libido. If you really want to drop it, you may want to ramp up a little more.
Fawn
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Post by cutebabyfuzz on Oct 14, 2005 17:28:01 GMT -5
I believe that sex lets out my stress. But...my boyfriend is trying to save his virginity until marriage. I think thats great! But, I don't get any sex from him. My boyfriend accepts me for who I am, phisically (even my breasts!) and emotionally, but he doesnt approve of my sex drive. Any tips to let out stress without masturbation (ick!)?
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Post by Ruderico on Oct 24, 2005 11:02:20 GMT -5
I can't see why masturbating would wrong. In the old days (of the Bible) people married at ages of 13 and 14 and never experienced so much emotional stress that they didn't feel like having sex. i.e.:People had a steady, legitimite partner to have sex with and experienced regular sex. So people didn't need to masturbate! (although they probably did)
But people changed over the years. People don't get married at ages when sexuality becomes a part of a person's needs nowadays (most people marry at way older age now) and society is so complicated that you have to make a careful choice of your partner to be sure your marriage will last through all the complications of modern life (again: people marry at older age).
So masturbation is a natural and harmless outcome of a shortage of sex and the absence of marriage! I think it is good people masturbate! Think of all the rape that would occur if lonely men couldn't get rid of their sexual energy!!
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Post by snowqueen67 on Oct 24, 2005 17:58:58 GMT -5
Fawn,
can Damiana help when you are still taking SP?
rebecca
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Post by fawnmarie on Oct 25, 2005 9:40:14 GMT -5
Um - get another boyfriend. Men with low libido never seem to get over it, and well - I can tell you from experience that there is something wrong with them that just spills out all over the relationship, and causes all kinds of problems. If it's a true medical problem and he's willing to address it medically (there IS hormone replacement for men), then you might not have a problem (i.e. the spirit is willing, but the body doesn't see the point).
I agree that there is nothing wrong with masturbation - but not sure it helps rape (which is more about control and hurting than sex - because most guys who are just lonely or horny DO just masturbate.)
And yes - Damiana will help with sex drive even if you are on SP, so I've noticed.
Fawn
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Post by Tweety on Nov 20, 2005 12:18:03 GMT -5
How likely is it for a man to climax up to 7 times in 12 hours WITHOUT taking anything to help?
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